Episode 6
For anyone exploring the realm of psychedelics it is immensely helpful to have a foundational understanding of trauma, particularly how developmental trauma shows up in our ways of relating and responding to ourselves, each other and life itself as adults.
In this intimate and educational interview, Michaela Carlin and Carista Luminare discuss a working definition of trauma and dive into the various “attachment styles” we develop in response to the level and quality of safety we felt in connection to our original primary caregivers, and how those styles play out throughout our lives.
Carista Luminare, Ph.D., has more than 40 years experience as a counselor, consultant and educator to individuals, couples and families. In her private counseling practice, she integrates her lifelong research on how our early bonding patterns profoundly impact our self-identity and adult relationship dynamics. She uses her unique attachment approach to rewire relationships from insecure to secure love and well-being.caristaluminare@gmail.com
Topics discussed in this episode . . .
Carista’s work preparing parents to guide their child’s’ development in the most supportive way possible
Creating a sense of love and security for a baby while they are still in the womb
How we project our early attachment style from childhood onto our adult partners
Trauma bonding
The self-awareness required to provide a sense of security and safety for our children and how to know when we need help
The deep need for children to have a “go to” person they feel can get help from when they are in distress
What is trauma?
What is secure love?
The four attachment styles between parent and child
How different attachment styles can play out in adult relationships
Can attachment issues be healed and transformed?
Recognizing we are triggered and how this limits our capacity to navigate conflict
How Carista works with clients to heal trauma somatically
Collective trauma
The difference between self-regulation and co-regulation
How narcissism and codependency can express in relationship
Carista’s experience helping clients with psychedelic integration
Is humanity ushering in a higher consciousness? Is there hope for our world?
Daily practices that can help us be more grounded in these challenging times
Carista Luminare’s Links
Book: Parenting Begins Before Conception: A Guide to Preparing Body, Mind, and Spirit For You and Your Future Child - http://tiny.cc/p6f2vz
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Special thanks to Jeremy Colbert (Taragápe) for the original podcast theme music.
You can find out more about Jeremey’s work here:
taragape.com and @taragape