Episode 28

Written By Michaela Carlin
 
 
 
 

What does it mean to heal the “mother wound”? Join psychedelic moms Michaela Carlin and Sheleana Aiyana, author of Becoming the One, as they discuss Sheleana’s personal story of triumph over adversity and journey to deep self-acceptance and healing. 

In her book, Sheleana sheds light on the pressures of motherhood and the complexities of dealing with personal trauma while raising a child, and how essential vulnerability and self-expression have been in healing and aligning herself with her truth and power.

Despite challenging beginnings marked by drug addiction and foster care, Sheleana has developed a profound understanding of motherhood as a devotional path, enriched by her exploration of her mother wound. Some of the core aspects of her healing have been transpersonal therapy, breathwork and work with earth medicines.

Sheleana Aiyana is an international best selling author of Becoming the One, and founder of Rising Woman, a growing community of more than 3 million readers. Her training and immersion in couples facilitation, inherited family trauma, family systems, conscious relationship, somatic healing, and plant medicines inform her holistic approach to seeing relationship as a spiritual path. She lives with her husband, Ben and their dog Bodhi on xwәnen’әč, the unceded land of the Hul’q’umi’num’- and WSÁNE´ C-speaking Coast Salish peoples, now known as Salt Spring Island, BC.

Episode Highlights

  • Sheleana Aiyana, author of Becoming the One, shares her personal journey towards deep self-acceptance 

  • She shares her experiences of growing up amidst her mother's addiction and mental health issues, leading her on a seven-year healing journey that eventually led her to a conscious partnership and parenting

  • The conversation explores the challenges of parenting and sustaining a relationship while working from home, acknowledging the resentment often experienced by women in early motherhood

  • Michaela and Sheleana discuss the concept of “gentle parenting”, a philosophy rooted in connection and respect over punishment and reward

  • Sheleana emphasizes the importance of self-truth, personal power, and not seeking external validation for love, or approval

  • She explains the concept of motherhood as a devotional path, a journey filled with immense love and care, despite the inherent transience of the experience

  • Sheleana shares about her struggles with past relationships and addictions and her subsequent awakening

  • She advocates for the exploration of childhood wounds to identify patterns of anxiety in adult relationships

  • Sheleana encourages women to seek alignment with their truth and power, suggesting they become aware of feelings of underappreciation, invisibility, or the need to contort themselves for connection

  • She suggests a mindful approach when triggered by a partner – pausing, tuning into the body, and asking for what's truly needed

  • Sheleana emphasizes that relationships can evolve into valuable vessels for growth and healing if each partner is committed to their own personal work

  • Michaela and Sheleana share the perspective that community and family are much more valuable that goals and success, acknowledging motherhood as a potent ‘psychedelic’ journey

Sheleana Aiyana’s Links

Resources Mentioned in This Episode

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Special thanks to Jeremy Colbert (Taragápe) for the original podcast theme music.

You can find out more about Jeremey’s work here:
taragape.com and @taragape

Michaela Carlin
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